A few years ago my friend saw the Oprah tour The Life You Want.
It was the one with Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell and Iyanla Vanzant. My friend had written down some of her favorite quotes and inspirations during the show. I asked her to send me some and she took snapshots of some of the pages. I was going through some old photos today and I came across those pages. The quote below, from Oprah, really hit home for me when I reread it.
In the past, when I sought guidance or insight, I would immediately turn to an outside source. I did not take the time to sit quietly, close my eyes and ask myself what I felt about it. And if I did, I usually ended up overriding what I felt with thoughts about what I believed was more "rationale".
Now, when I have a question or I'm seeking an answer, I resist the urge to ask what other people think. It's been a challenging pattern to change, because this is something that is deeply ingrained in us - Do you think I'll get the job? Do you think I should move? Do you think it'll rain today?
I used to have so many questions that I felt couldn't be answered. When will this be here? What should I do? The more I worried about them the more I sought outside counsel. I looked everywhere but within my own heart. The thing with this is is that all answers that come from outside of you come from the perspective of the person giving you this answer. They can only tell you what they believe to be true, and this might be helpful, but more often than not, it can be misleading.
What's true for someone else might not be true for you. And furthermore, they may not even be able to believe in what they can't see. So when you ask someone, "Do you think I'll get this job?" they might think about all the things that are stacked against you. They might try to rationalize it and answer you from the mind level. They don't take into account the magic of life, that magic of synchronicity, the magic that allows two perfect things to come together even though they don't look perfect on the surface.
So next time you have a question, resist the urge to ask the nearest person what they think (or Google). Put your hands on your heart, take a deep breath, and FEEL what's true. What you feel is always the best compass in this life.
"Every time you ask someone else what they think about something you are without clarity. FEEL the answer from within you. When you are still you will connect with spirit."
- Oprah, The Life You Want Tour