From Esther Hicks & Abraham:
We're really putting a straight forward question to all of you: What would cause you to be willing to deprive yourself of feeling good? Why would you beat up on yourself?
The answer is, you don't like yourself very much. The reason that you don't like yourself very much is because you've been looking to disconnected people to like you, and they don't like you very much.
But it's not personal - they don't not like you because you're not likeable. They don't like you because they're not in a likeable mood.
It's not personal. They're not depriving you of their love. They're just pinched off from their own love so they don't have anything to give you. And everybody is going to give you what they're feeling. So if they're all pinched off and you say, "Look at me! Give me something!" they're going to give you something that you don't like.
And then, you're going to get used to what it feels like not to be liked. And all along, your Inner Being is loving you so much.
Every time you're not being loved by someone, your Inner Being is loving you more because you're asking for it stronger.
So the more Source loves you, and the more you don't let yourself feel the love of Source, and the more you look through the cracks of others for them to love you, the more you become dependent upon them, those flaky human friends. They're just not consistent - they're so fickle! Oh, they'll love you if you do everything they want you to do - but you better not let up for a minute! And their love for you will stop because it was contingent upon you pleasing them.
We love you so much, but you've got this backwards, and you've had it backwards for quiet awhile. But when you get it turned around and you begin to accept that when I feel love, that means I've opened the conduit and the love that is me is flowing through me.
Not through me and only to others, but through me and to me. To me and through me.
When you're loving someone else, do you know who receives the greatest benefit of your love? You do! Because your valve is wide open and every cell of your body is resonating with the love that is flowing through you.