Okay, so you can stay in your sweats and still be a bad ass. I just happen to feel more productive when I throw off the old sweats and step it up to some jeans (or when I'm really feeling it, a dress and tights).
Today on Twitter I saw #femalefilmmakerfriday trending. Around 4% of wide release films are directed by women. Considering we make up half the population, that's an abysmal representation of our thoughts, ideas, feelings and lives.
When I clicked on the trending hashtag I didn't expect much. However, scrolling through the tweets with photo after photo of women helming the cam, leading their own documentaries, movies and shorts, was like lightning in my coffee. That 4% may not break today or tomorrow or even this year, but if these women have anything to say about it, it's cracking bit by bit.
Have a gander at some of the badasses below. I was particularly energized to see so many black women out there, telling their stories and changing the dynamic. The leaders of tomorrow are going to be inspired by the trailblazers of today. The power of seeing someone who you feel represents you cannot be underestimated.
Congrats to these bold women, and to all who are standing up and proving dreams aren't just one for type of person. They're for all of us.
Scroll through the tweets below, or follow the hashtag #femalefilmmakerfriday for more!
You know those times you see someone that looks really grumpy? Like maybe you're in line at the grocery store, and the clerk is glaring at everyone that comes through. It's that person that looks like they're having a shit day, and they don't care who you are, you're going to get their angry shit day vibes too.
When I used to see people like that I would feel this need to guard myself.
I'm one of those overly sensitive people, and I have a hard time standing up for myself, especially when it's in a public space. So whenever I would see someone radiating "death to rainbows" type vibes I would feel myself shrink and just want to get away as fast as possible.
But then one day, when I saw someone like that, I thought about who they were and how they got there. Nobody becomes grumpy because they had an awesome day. People become grumpy because things have gone wrong. Maybe it was just that day, or maybe it was many days, or maybe it was a full on life of one bad day after another.
When I thought about it like that, I didn't feel the need to guard myself.
Instead, I felt compassion for where this person was. I then felt it for myself too, because I know that feeling of having a terrible time, and all you want is to project that frustration out in a giant, cathartic release.
So when I saw this person radiating their anger and frustration, I didn't want to hide. I didn't immediately think of shutting down and shutting them out. Instead, I thought, "How can I make your day better?"
And then, I felt so much better. Which is the funny thing, because I hadn't started out wanting to make it about me.
I had thought, here is a person struggling, and rather than judging their pain, I can offer love in return, and so I just kept thinking "How can I make your day better?"
I've done this many times since, and I swear, when I do this, it feels as if the person softens. I don't know if they can feel my vibes, which say I care, I love you, I see your struggle, or if it's just the simple fact that I'm no longer guarding myself and projecting separation. Whatever it is, it has this powerful ability to diffuse my anxiety, make me feel connected, and to remind me that compassion goes a lot further for all people involved than judgement.
Next time you feel yourself out in the world, and someone is just ruining your day with their bad vibes, try thinking this simple question. "How can I make your day better?" I know it sounds ass backwards, because sometimes the last thing we want to do with grumpy people is give them our good vibes. But I bet you'll feel a lot better, and you deserve to feel good.
As much as I love meditation and all things related to immersing myself in my mystical, infinite inner world, sometimes I like to get lost in someone else's world for a little while.
Lately, that world has been the Russian aristocracy of the late 1800's. A world populated by people who feel oppressed by rigid social norms and simultaneously exhilarated by the rapid changes happening all across their country. It's a world that feels both exotic and familiar, which I think is true of much of the world. When we get down to the heart of it, we are all much more alike than different.
I had always been intimidated by the novel Anna Karenina. It's long, and on top of that, I often find Russian literature to be a slog to get through. But when I saw Maggie Gyllenhaal was narrating I had to give it a try. I have had admiration and respect for her for years, especially after seeing her in The Honorable Woman.
When the audio began and told me I had 35 hours to go I wondered what I'd gotten myself into. But within a few chapters I was drawn in and already eager to know what happens to these characters that so many love. It was nice to have something to look forward to at night instead of zoning out in front of the TV. With the dark and cold outside my window, I cozied up with a blanket, a cup of lavender and lemon tea, and let myself get swept away in the lives of Anna, Levin and Stepan Arkadyevitch.
At times I would get a bit lost because of the names of the characters. I ended up getting the Kindle book for only 99 cents, which syncs with the audio as I read. If I ever need to check in on what was said, my Kindle magically opens to the passage that was just read.
If you're looking for a little winter evening ritual and need a break from TV binging also, I highly recommend this book with this narrator. I do love Audible, and have listened to many books through it. This one is one of the best, and could ultimately end up being my favorite!