This video came up in my Facebook newsfeed. I don't usually sit and watch YouTube videos that are more than 5 minutes, but this one just moved me in so many ways. Everything she says is so perfect. Give this a chance, at least for a minute, if you feel you have the time.
My favorite quotes from Melanie:
"We are all mirrors to each other, and I think a lot of people, they tend to project their bullshit. So I have to remember that if anyone says something to me, like judges me in a certain way, it's really just a reflection of themselves and their own issues that they're dealing with."
"I never thought I was beautiful, but I also never thought I was ugly. For me, beauty was only more of a feeling, a state of being."
From Elisa and Lily:
"Part of our exploration with What’s Underneath is to redefine beauty and to bust open the rigid and stagnant status quo — for us, any status quo is boring and thus not beautiful. There is little to say about model Melanie Gaydos, other than that her strength is so super human that it renders us completely humble to her extraordinariness. She’s not only journeyed through ectodermal dysplasia (a genetic disorder that effects your pores, your hair, your teeth, and your nails), but an alcoholic family, abuse, and suicidal thoughts. Today, Melanie sees beauty as a state of being that she has achieved through her experiences. Amen."
From the What's Underneath team:
We asked model Melanie Gaydos to participate in the What's Underneath Project because she bears witness to our belief that style
Is not about wanting to be someone else,
Is comfort in your skin,
Is your spirit,
Is What's Underneath.
Read about why we love Melanie: http://stylelik.eu/1AKALTT
Watch more episodes of What's Underneath: http://stylelik.eu/1jMpnfe
Inertia - physics :
"A property of matter by which something that is not moving remains still and something that is moving goes at the same speed and in the same direction until another thing or force affects it."
It's interesting how the physical laws of the Universe also apply to the non-tangible elements of our lives. Inertia states that a body at rest will stay at rest unless acted upon by some outside force. Have you ever noticed that principle in your own life? You go to work day after day, follow the same routine, and you do so wondering how it will change. The truth is, it won't. Not unless you apply some pressure to your routine, put something in motion that counter-acts the direction you're going. Or perhaps it's a lack of direction at all. If you feel you aren't moving or going anywhere you're going to stay that way... unless you do something about it. It's a law of the Universe.
The reverse is also true. Once you start moving in a new direction, you're going to keep going that way until you do something to make it stop. If you start taking steps toward your dream, let's say of being a professional singer, you'll keep going unless you allow something in that is going to halt your momentum. Momentum is what keeps a physical body in motion, but it's also what keeps our lives in motion.
If you have taken a step towards making positive changes in your life first of all congratulate yourself on the energy and courage that took. And now allow yourself to soak in the comfort that you can keep going, and you will keep going, so long as you want to. If something gets in your way, if old patterns halt your progress, gently yet effectively push past them. It may be hard at first and require a lot of energy. But imagine what it's like when you push on a door and it suddenly gives way. All the built up force causes you to FLY through the doorway. You couldn't stop if you tried, you just plummet through and into the room.
The effort you put into overcoming obstacles will only create more force to push you in the direction you desire to go. Obstacles are frustrating, but they build strength, and once you break through them, you are that much stronger and going that much faster in your desired direction.
What step can you take today to build momentum in the direction you desire? And remember, not all steps are action oriented. Some of the most important things we do involve stopping, halting a path or way of life we no longer wish to engage with. In order to reverse directions you first have to stop going the way you're going.
My friend Rachael and I are always talking about the power of the words "I am." Whatever you put after "I am...." is going to define who you are.
I got a wonderful reminder of this recently from my niece, Aby. This past weekend we were at the Santa Cruz beach boardwalk. She's always walking around saying, "I am lucky." And like magic, all weekend lucky things kept happening to her. She got on a ride she was too short for. She found money. She got free tickets TWICE in the arcade. She won a stuffed bunny in a claw machine. Have you ever seen someone win from a claw machine? That right there was enough to get me to stop and take notice.
As we walked home with her arcade prizes I was thinking how often I use the words "I am" to my advantage. Yes, I understand it's important to use them in a positive way. But I realized I don't do it enough so that it's leading me closer to ever greater things. And rest assured things can always get better. Which isn't to say we should always seek more and feel unsatisfied. It's just a fact that things can always grow and expand.
Use "I am" to your advantage. Harness the power of your mind and your beliefs and watch magic unfold in your life. Have a little experiment with it and see what shows up. The more you say it and put it out the Universe the more it will just be who you are. So don't be afraid to repeat "I am love" or "I am success" all day everyday (or try repeating it as you fall asleep). It'll change your life.
I am participating in the 100 Happy Days Challenge. I took some lovely photos of flowers today for day 1 because I adore seeing and smelling flowers when I walk. If you want to do this also go to http://100happydays.com/. Each day for 100 days post a photo of something that made you happy to Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. Hashtag your post with #100HappyDays and then explore what others have posted!
I would like to update this post to note that I finished the project, and it was really a life-changing experience. I highly recommend it. Going about your day, noticing the little things that make you happy, and then sharing them will change your perspective and get you in the habit of noticing what you're grateful for. It takes no extra time, and the end result will be very fulfilling. Hop on over to the 100happydays page to sign up and see what it inspires in your life!