One of the hardest things about anxiety is that it rips me out of the present and scatters my energy across all future possibilities. My mind gets lost in places I'll feel uncertain, people who will make me feel unsteady, and results that will make me question my self-worth.
The frustrating thing is, none of it has happened, and I have no idea how it will happen. I might have an amazing time at that place I'm unsure of. I might have an incredible connection with that person I'm concerned about. And those results I'm so afraid of? They may turn out better than I thought, or if bad, not bother me at all.
But anxiety has convinced me it's all HORRIBLE and it's all happening NOW. It makes it feel as if a thousand different terrible things are happening in my life and I NEED TO IT TO STOP.
In order to make it stop, I always end up wanting to retreat. I don't want to socialize. I don't want to go out for dinner. I don't want to do anything that isn't in the safety of the walls of my home. This is not good, and the fear always ends up building on itself. If I give it a crumb it grows bigger and demands more.
In order to stop this cycle, I've learned a simple trick. I tell myself, "This will just be for this moment. I can survive this moment."
In all honesty, most things that freak me out, they last about an hour. Some stuff I fear tops out at 15 minutes. But in my mind, that 15 minutes is eternal. Which is why I've started to take things moment by moment. And when I do that, I start to put it in perspective. Yes, I can have that conversation, which will be over before I know it. I can go to that event, which will be over before the moon has even risen.
All the stuff I fear, it never lasts more than a day. Which means no matter how scared I get, no matter how embarrassed my anxiety makes me, tomorrow will be a new day. Tomorrow I can reset and embrace the energy of a fresh chance, a chance to leave all that behind.
Since there will always be a tomorrow, why not make the most of today? Today is just a series of moments. Moments waiting for us to say yes to them.
If your anxiety is creeping up on you, trying to convince you to miss out on your own life, start looking at things moment by moment. When something in your future is freaking you out, keep repeating, "That's not happening right now," and bring yourself back to the present. Wherever you are, find what steadies you.
Look out your window at the sky. Put your hands on something solid, like a table. Steady yourself in the present moment. And as you prepare to go to the thing making you anxious, keep telling yourself, "This is a moment. I can handle a moment. I'm stronger than I know. I got this. And it'll be over before I know it."
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This is your center of love. Self-love, friend love, love for the world, love for life, love for your pets. Love is our purest connection to the Divine and to our eternal selves.
It’s no coincidence that what is arguably our most powerful and important chakra is right in the middle, with three above it and three below. It is the meeting place of the higher and the lower, the balance between the physical and the energetic.
When this chakra is out of balance, all the others feel it. In some ways, it is our essence chakra, the chakra that breathes life into our mind-body system. If this chakra was ever to close, our connection to our source would close. This would result in chronic physical illness, depression, fatigue, and deep feelings of fear and separation.
Being in touch with our heart chakra can be like flipping a magical switch in our lives. Healing this chakra flows powerful healing out to all the others. The more we open up to and receive love, the more blessings seem to flow effortlessly into our lives. Our health improves, our finances improve, and we feel a general sense of love and exuberance for all of life.
Signs of good chakra health
Optimism, joy, focused on solutions rather than problems, a sense of well-being, a sense of being taken care of and guided, love for life, love for all people, love for ourselves, excitement, good physical health
Signs of being blocked
Depressed, anxious, feelings of isolation, feelings of fear and paranoia, anger, frustration, chronic illness, a sense of being alone in the universe, working endlessly and never getting ahead, focused on problems and negativity
Sometimes you're tired. Sometimes you just can't get your enthusiasm up. Sometimes you just want to sit back and say, "to hell with it all."
Feeling low, tired, grumpy, sad, are all perfectly natural things to feel. There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing you need to fix in your energy or your spirit.
All you need is to accept how you feel. Accept it fully. Love it completely. Let it be a part of you, and let it show you what it wants to show you.
Sometimes we want to smother our darker feelings with positive thoughts and intentions. Sometimes we become afraid of our anger, sadness, guilt, fear, and angst. We believe that to radiate negative feelings will only bring negative things into our life. But the anger is there for a reason. The sadness is there because a part of us has been denied. The only way to transcend the feeling is to surrender to it. To love it and let it show us what it's trying to show us.
To be spiritual does not mean to be at peace and zen all the time.
To be spiritual means to love and accept yourself fully, no matter where you are, and no matter what you're feeling.
To be spiritual does not mean you will never again feel a negative emotion.
To be spiritual means you accept all your emotions as valid aspects of yourself.
To be spiritual means you allow all your emotions to guide you, like currents in a river.
And just as you are a dynamic being, in an ever changing river of feelings, so is everyone around you. The more we accept the validity of all our emotions, from light to dark, the more accepting we are of all the emotions of those around us.
I hope this week ahead is full of many delightful surprises for you.