There is a lot that writing and putting my writing out to the world has taught me. I'd say the biggest lesson, which I think will never end, is the truth that happiness comes from within. When my self-confidence and good feelings are dependent on other people, situations and circumstances they can and will be taken away. A negative review has toppled me from a high vibration to a low one in a matter of minutes, but climbing back up always feels like it takes anywhere from hours to days.
I am always trying new ways to handle these moments of being toppled. One thing I'm practicing now, which is really helping, is pre-empting the down turns with daily reminders that I am good and worthy. I set two reminders on my cellphone, one to go off at 8AM and one for 8PM. All they say is, "I'm a winner!" Each time I see this I smile, and I think in my head "I'm a winner!" I can't help it. I don't have to force it, which is also a powerful reminder of how fast we take in information.
To think this without pausing to question feels great, but I think the reason it makes me smile is because it's so cheesy. Each time I see the reminder I think, "Haha, this is really rather silly." Whenever you can make something feel fun or light it's going to feel less resistant and go to your core so much faster.
You can never fully prevent people from getting you down from time to time. That's not the point of life. None of us are here to become so hard and tough that we're immune to feeling. We're here to grow and learn, and besides, if you never felt down again you would lose some much needed contrast in your life.
So my daily "I'm a winner!" reminders are not keeping me from slipping and feeling down from time to time. But they have helped me immensely in bouncing back quicker, in trusting and believing in myself more, and in feeling my core self-confidence grow. It also helps me to smile at times when I wasn't about to smile. It helps so much I even have reminders set on my computer! I hope you will give this little trick a try and see if you don't notice how you respond to things, and how quickly you let them go, changing for the better.
p.s. As we come into the holiday season you can also tweak this, so that your phone reminds you to pause and breathe, or to stop what you're doing, smile, and look up. Whatever feels good to you.