One of the biggest hurdles to fulfilling our potential in life is our fear. In general, I find it's not the fear itself that stops us, but the inability to confront the fear. We go to great lengths to hide from it, to pretend we don't feel it, or to convince ourselves we don't want what's on the other side of the fear.
Anytime we go somewhere new we're bound to feel a little nervous. We accept this as a part of travel, we even call it adventure and look forward to it. But when it comes to going somewhere metaphorically, such as opening up to a relationship, we act as if we're wrong or weak to be scared. We don't consider that an adventure waiting to be taken on. We judge ourselves and stop before we've even taken the first step.
How do we deal with these emotional blocks and get back to remembering all of life is an adventure? And how do we do so as fast and as easy as possible? For me, the answer came in the “Release Technique.”
I first heard about the Release Technique through Darius Barazandeh’s online radio show “You Wealth Revolution.” I was having a bad day and I just couldn’t seem to get control over my emotions. It was the kind of day where I stormed around and everyone seemed to be looking at me both with concern and wariness. I didn’t want to be boiling over like that, I really thought I knew every trick in the Spiritual book to bring myself back to my center, but the feelings had risen up so fast and so intense that I couldn't see the forest for the trees. I was angry. More than angry. I was pissed off and the reason I couldn't dial it down was because I was ignoring something key. The anger was a mask for my feels of fear. Fear of change, fear of failure, fear of success, it was all there, whether I looked at it or not. The anger, in some ways, was the fear's exhasperated yell for my attention. And by that point I had no choice but to listen.
When I calmed down enough that I felt connected to my guidance again something was really trying to come through. This guidance kept telling me to listen to Darius’ radio show where he’d be interviewing Larry Crane about something he shared called “The Release Technique.” I listened in and I was so glad and grateful I did. The release technique turned out to be one of the simplest and most effective things I’ve ever done.
There's no need to avoid fear in our lives. We also needn't feel we're not progressing because new fears come up. All people feel fear, from Oprah to former Kings of empires. Fear is pretty natural to feel when you're challenging yourself. The key is managing it and letting it flow through you. This is where the Release Technique comes in.
It teaches that when you feel held back by fear or anxiety it’s coming from a place that you’ve separated from your true self. There are walls you’ve created in your inner world and you hold feelings in shut off rooms. The more you resist or reject it the more you hold it in place. You either have to make peace with them or stay feeling how you feel (which based on my own experience, I would say feels very, very stuck, like you're in tar).
The solution to this is one simple word. It’s a word you know well. It’s a positive word and I bet you really like saying it. That word is YES. All you have to do is say YES to the parts of yourself that have become separated.
I want to be clear that you’re not agreeing with anything that feels heavy or dark. You aren’t saying, “Yes, I love fear!” It’s important to have your intentions clear. What you’re saying is, “I love me, all of me, and I want to heal all parts and shine light everywhere inside me. So, yes, I see my fear. I see it and I allow it to return to it's natural energetic state.”
But you don’t have to run that script. And please don’t, because this isn’t about getting your head involved. All you must do is acknowledge the feeling and say Yes. Say yes again and acknoweldge it more. And again. And again. Say it over and over until you feel the part of you that isn’t in its natural state start melting back to its true vibration: love. Embracing everything about yourself, even your fear, anger or doubt, is the key to an instant emotional transformation. In order for anything to release you have to first accept it.
Your natural state is love, you were created from love, and anything that’s not love has become walled off. The more walls you have the more limited you feel and the slower your energy runs. The release technique asks you to just say Yes to these parts of yourself. Acknowledge them, tell them you want them to be part of you again, be one with them, and just keep saying yes. If they're part of your essence they'll transmute and stay, and if not, they'll effortlessly release. Your love is so, so much bigger than them, and it can sort through all of it.
So for me, I was feeling really angry that although I was working hard I seemed to be hitting obstacle after obstacle. For all my good intentions I just couldn’t get any momentum going on my new screenplay. I was angry, and what I didn’t realize, was below the anger was fear. You may have to go through a few layers of feelings yourself depending on how good you are at hiding things.
When I saw the fear I only wanted to hug it and tell that part of myself it was okay. I couldn’t be angry if I tried because I saw the anger was masking something that was crying out to be loved and comforted. I said yes to it, sat with it, released it, and felt the inner peace return.