I originally read this piece on Monique Muro's blog. I love what she writes about and asked if she would let me share this post here. For more posts about living your passions and letting life love you visit her site, Return to Love. You may also want to check out her 30 day self-love morning practice, which I just finished re-listening to myself.
This one goes out to all of the people who feel guilty for having really good days. Or for those who expect nothing but doom after having a really good day.
(Scoot over so I can read this too).
Now from what I know about life, we have a bit of trouble relaxing. Even when things are going good.
There are days when I am so, so grateful for all of the good things in my life. I’ll wake up in my nice warm bed, in my beautiful apartment, take a nice hot shower, and pick out the day’s apparel from an extremely packed closet full of clothes. I’ll think damn, how did I get so lucky?
Then I’ll see the boyfriend and feel more lucky. I’ll show up to work and feel even more lucky.
And suddenly, in all of this gratitude, I’ll become afraid that it’s all too good. That things are just going too good. Do you have this fear sometimes? It’s almost like I’m expecting trouble to rear it’s ugly head somewhere because things are going so great. Some inner voice says, watch out Monique, things are going good now but just wait, it won’t last forever. Something bad’s bound to happen.
The good thing about Hay House Radio is, it’s taught me to let life love me. (Rest assured, life loves you too.)
Take a Look Around At The Good
Without us really thinking about it, life gives us warm beds to sleep in every single night. It gives us two eyes to see everything with. It gives us such beautiful and diverse faces. We can stand up and sit down and wiggle all around whenever we want. We have a few good people in our life. We aren’t chained. We’re so free, and we’re so wonderful, and it’s okay to recognize and appreciate this freedom for what it is.
It’s Okay to Enjoy It
It’s okay to get into your safe, beautiful car and let the wind and sun hit your face. It’s okay when good things happen to you, because they’re happening for a reason. There’s no bad in it. It’s just raw, simple good. Take it at face value. No one says you can only have one good day, or one good moment. In fact your whole life can be good. (Say what?!)
I know that sometimes though, it’s hard to enjoy the good. Sometimes I’ll see something on the news about some kid dying at the hands of their own parents. I’ll see people who are without homes due to fires and natural disasters. I’ll hear about other people who are drowning in sorrow and I’ll think, wow. Is it okay for me to be happy when so much ungodly despair and negativity pervades some parts of the world?
And I’ll feel really, really guilty about having good things in my life. Like absurdly guilty. And then that whole doom and gloom feeling washes over me, like something bad is about to happen because look around! There’s bad everywhere!
Ask Yourself, Is Guilt Going to Help?
What I’ve learned from listening to Hay House Radio these past few days is that it’s normal and okay to feel guilty about things, but you have to ask yourself, how much is feeling guilty helping the situation? Is your guilt going to solve the problems of the world?
That’s a firm no. When life shows up in monumentally good ways, you have to let it love you. There’s a reason you’re where you are today, and where you are not. The universe is looking after you, whether you believe in it or not, and somehow this exceedingly good day landed in your lap. It’s a gift. Would you give away a gift someone gave to you out of love, just because you felt guilty for having it? There are a lot of things we deserve in this life, and gifts of love make up many of them.
Say It A Few Times
Yes, it’s time to get tribal. Life loves me. Say it out loud, or say it under your breath, any way so that it really sticks. Life loves me. It may seem awkward at first, or even a bit self-serving, as though we don’t deserve to walk around saying or thinking this. But that’s just our good ole’ ego getting in the way of everything. Per usual. So say it until it makes you feel good.
Life loves me.
It’s a real spirit lifter. Because after you say the ‘life loves me’ part, you can say ‘and I love life’. And then you have this beautiful relationship thing going on.
And when you hear about or see horribly heinous things happening in the world, remember that life loves those people too. It’s just that life is ALL OVER THE PLACE. It’s literally everywhere. It’s despair, it’s gladness, it’s crazy, it’s joy, it’s weird, it’s scary, it’s mysterious, it’s wobbly, it’s grey, it’s peach, it’s all over the fucking Google map. And yes, we have our heinous moments too. We don’t have worry-free lives. There are really unfortunate things that have happened to us, too.
But we also have good. And the people who are going through something heinous also have good. These horrible things aren’t an indicator of how our life is going to go, or that we don’t deserve the gifts we have. No two people’s experiences are the same. Different things happen to us for different reasons.
So if you’re feeling happy, stay there. Life is loving you in this very moment, the same way it’s been loving you since the first time you opened those big, beautiful eyes and took in your very first breath. Explore the way life loves you, and be grateful for it. Let it love you in your warm bed, in your nice car, in your beautiful face. Somewhere along the way, you did a few good things that got you to this good place. Be there to enjoy it.
Now of course, I wouldn’t recommend bragging about how good life is going for you to everyone you meet, obviously we’re talking about internal good stuff here, but you get the picture.
When things are going good for you, let them go good. Be grateful, and enjoy this goodness. Meditate on it. Enjoy it like the first bite of a greasy, cheesy pepperoni pizza.
Good is not guilt. Good is not doom. Good is good. And it sure as hell doesn’t have to be fleeting.
Yesterday I woke up with a strong urge to get out of town.
I really wanted to go to the beach, but I'd stayed out late the night before and I was feeling the weight of it. Driving for two hours over and down through the Santa Cruz mountains did not seem like the most sound idea. But I could not ignore this urge to just throw a sweater in a bag and go. I could stop for coffee along the way if I needed, and naps at the beach are the best.
As the sun continued to come up more and the day warmed I knew I had to go. We have had some glorious and much needed rain here, but it has left me missing the sun and spending time outside. So I threw my stuff into a tote, filled my travel mug with coffee and motivated myself right into the car.
Once I was at the beach I was so glad. I couldn't imagine having spent the day at home, lounging inside. This felt right. And the fact that I hadn't planned it, and I had just gone also felt right. I often forget how important it is to let a day unfold without plans or expectations, living in the moment and letting myself be surprised along the way. It always makes me feel so open, and I can feel how that openness is an attraction point for other new things.
There are times when I feel like my life is on a bit of a loop. I do my work, I go for a run, I go to yoga, and it isn't always on a set schedule, but I'm most certainly circling around the same locations and events week in and week out. Once I got to Santa Cruz I picked a burger place near the beach. I'd never been to this one before, and it was refreshing to step into a totally new place, know nothing about it, expect nothing, and enjoy the feeling of the unknown.
After I hung around the beach for awhile (and took that much needed nap) I decided to head over to the boardwalk. I wanted to grab some of their food, which is never healthy but always reminds me of fun times and happy memories. Once there I was surprised to see the boardwalk flooded with thousands of people, which is unusual for this time of year. It was then that I realized they were doing a clam chowder cook off.
For only $10 I got a testing set, which includes the cup, spoon, six tickets and a people's choice ballot. You could choose any six booths you want to sample and then vote on which ever one you felt was the best. I love clam chowder, and I was thrilled to have stumbled upon this event. I found out later this is the largest and longest running clam chowder cook off in the country - what a lucky find!
Going from booth to booth, tasting the delicious soup, feeling the excitement of competition and mingling with the other happy patrons was the best part of the day. Had I not made the spontaneous decision to go to the beach, I would have missed out on this fantastic event.
And this is why it's important to be spontaneous - you have no idea what or who is going to show up when you deviate from your normal loop. You never know what magic you will come across. And that feeling of being happy and receptive is the best place you can get into in order to welcome all kinds of other things into your life. If your energy is like an antenna, receiving things on the channel you are set to, feeling happy, open and free is going to bring in other things that make you feel happy, open and free.
If you are feeling stuck in a rut, like nothing good or interesting ever shows up, then find a way to break your routine. Driving for two hours to the beach isn't always possible, but changing course in small ways can work just as well. Cook something you normally wouldn't. Say hello to a stranger. Change your hair. And remember, there are infinite possibilities happening at all times, and the more you engage in the free flow of life, the more you will see how true this is.
A good way to see your goals realized with more ease and less over-exerting effort is to get in touch with your Inner Guide. People sometimes call this a "Higher Self," although I don't generally use that term because it implies a part of you that is separate and above, maybe even better than the you as you are here, in this world. It is something that is both with you and beyond you, interwoven in you and through you. The part that sits beyond you is not above you, but inside you, connected to the inner dimension that leads to moments of coincidence, gut feelings and brilliant flashes of spontaneous inspiration.
Be sure not to scroll ahead - this requires you not to know what's coming.
In a moment I'm going to ask you to a pick a number and then a letter. Whatever you pick is going to help you to receive a message from your Inner Guide, which I also like to call the Eternal Self, and others like to call it the I AM presence. Having an intimate relationship with this part of yourself takes practice. It requires listening to your own inner voice, your intuition, which may contradict what you consider "rational" or "reasonable". The best way to develop this gift, or any gift, is to approach it playfully. If you come at something too serious you will be looking for certain results. You will approach it as a pass/fail scenario and therefore attach positive and negative feelings to it. Seeing it as a playful learning experience will help you not to judge what's happening, but to explore it with curiosity and wonder.
After you pick your number and letter read the associated message below. If the message feels like you were meant to receive it at this time congratulations! You've used your intuition, or your inner guidance. If it doesn't resonate with you and you think, what is this? I don't get it... then don't worry. It doesn't mean you don't have intuition or you're blocked. Intuition needs to be developed, just like a muscle. So if it doesn't resonate, no problem. The important thing is you've opened yourself up to the possibility that you can do this, and that is how you acquire any skill - by first opening up to the idea that you'd like to test the waters. There are a lot of ways to further play with this, such as picking a daily word card, or with E-squared, a fun book of short exercises by Pam Grout.
Okay, here we go. Take three deep breaths and focus on your heart as you do so. Think about where you are, your situation, and what it is you're hoping for. When you're holding that clear and strong in your mind think to yourself, "Eternal Self, give me the message that will serve my highest and best good for me today. Not the message I expect to see, nor the one I think I should see, but the one that You choose."
Keep breathing slow and deep. Send a gentle message through your body to relax. Smile soft, and smile into your heart. Picture white fluffy clouds in your mind.
The clouds pull apart, and as they do so, you see a number in the blue sky between 1 and 5. Go with the first number you see. Write it down and trust it's right. Clear your mind, relax and smile.
Take another deep breath while focusing on your heart.
Once more picture white fluffy clouds. The clouds separate and there is a letter there, A or B. Write the letter next to your number.
Now, with your letter and number in mind, scroll past the stars below and read below to see what you go.
A popular expression these days is thoughts become things.
It's a great way to get us to consider how our thoughts create and lead our life. However, it can also put us in the energy of only believing things manifest in the future. All of our thoughts will become what we want... one day. Tomorrow. Next week. Next year. It doesn't matter when, what matters is that they will materialize, these thoughts will become something... eventually.
To harness the power of your thoughts and your mind now, try this instead - Thoughts ARE things.
Imagine your thoughts are real, they have mass. You create them and something is literally created in this world. Something that draws more to itself. Like a new planet absorbing meteors and comets. Try visualizing each thought as a bubble that flows from your physical mind out into the non-physical realm.
In the non-physical, this very real thought bubble seeks out other similar feeling bubbles.
A thought of success goes out and finds an action, not yet materialized that matches it - if the idea of success makes you happy, then the action will be happy. If the idea of success makes you afraid, then the resulting action will be overwhelming or fraught with pitfalls.
If the idea of success feels impossible, then the connections will be dead ends, disappointing or continually fall apart. It's all up to you.
The thoughts are real now and becoming something now, even if we don't see it with our physical eyes. After these bubbles connect with these elements in the non-physical, they flow back to our physical world, where they show themselves to our physical being.
But not once was the thought ever waiting to become real. It was real all along, and connecting and making things happen all along.
It just didn't reveal itself until our neighbor surprised us with a fresh baked pie, or conversely, with an angry rant about our lawn.
Thoughts do become physical things. But thoughts also ARE things, in a non-physical way. Use this knowledge to your advantage. First of all, so you will be more aware and conscious of thoughts you're thinking. Second of all, so that you won't doubt this principle is real.
The doubt that thoughts can show up and create our life IS a thought, and that doubt will draw to it all of the things that reaffirm to you what it is you are thinking about.
Now close your eyes, pull up the happiest thought you can, and visualize this mass of happiness flowing into the non-physical. And let it go. Trust it's real and it will work it's magic to flow that happiness back to you ten times over.
Yesterday I returned to one of my favorite places for reflection, rest and deep reconnections to my inner self, my Higher Self, the self that is eternal love and energy.
I haven't been to a float tank in awhile, but I have been yearning to go for a few weeks. If you are not familiar with float tanks, they are also called "isolation tanks" or "sensory deprivation tanks." The idea being that in our daily lives we our flooded with noise, media and things clamoring for our attention. The float tank gives you a moment to not only tune it all out, but go into complete silence, let go as you float on a cushion of salt water, and completely relax.
When I'm in the tank, all I hear is my own deep breaths rolling in and out.
This in itself is a form of meditation, but it goes so much deeper than this as there are no distractions to my calming breaths. It's just me, feeling my body stretch out as I float, and total peace. There is also something about floating in the water that feels so soothing, so calming and like I'm being held and comforted.
If you have not yet tried a float tank, perhaps this is a great time to see what it's all about. It is growing in popularity and tank centers are popping up all over the place. I wish there was one closer to me, which is why I haven't been in awhile, but the hour drive to this one always feels worth it afterwards.
Stay positive my friends, and above all, rest and rejuvenate! Taking care of yourself is always important.
Last night I went to the local open mic for poets. It's one of my favorite events around here and they do it once every month.
I felt that this month was an especially relevant time to go as art is healing for both the person who creates it and the person who experiences it. It is always important that people feel safe and encouraged to express themselves, their stories and their feelings. When the world around us is in a major upheaval and people feel lost, scared and alienated it is more important than ever.
I am always impressed by the courage and grit these poets have to share not only their work, but their fears, their regrets and their deepest secrets to a room full of strangers. I am also equally impressed by the audience, which always comes together to offer the highest level of support and unity I have ever experienced.
When a person gets to the mic and announces it's their first time they are greeted with thunderous applause and smiles. When a nervous person stumbles on their words the crowd cheers them on. When someone shares something particularly sensitive, such as about being abused as a child, the crowd responds with sincere love and respect. It is the kind of environment I wish we fostered all the time.
I heard so many inspiring and unique poems last night. There is always something so profound and engaging about hearing poetry read by the person who created it.
I thank all the brave souls who showed up last night to share their heart, their soul and their art. As the host of the night said at one point, "Art will save the world."
I truly believe he was right.
There is no part of me that is not part of everything else (a special post shared from A Return to Love)
During these turbulent times I have returned to a morning self-love practice created by Monique Muro.
It's a 30 day journey called Return to Love that takes about 5-7 minutes each morning. I open up the daily email, put in my ears buds and go into the warm and loving space her words create for me.
The other day I was listening to day 9, which is 'There is no part of me that is not part of everything else.' As the keys of a piano gently played in the background Monique guided me right where I needed to go: into a space of wholeness. She freed me from not only my own feelings of separation, but the ones that keep rising up around me.
Afterwards, I felt so much better that I asked Monique if I could share this on my blog. I am so grateful she agreed! You can play the guided audio below, or if you like, read the meditation to yourself (the words are below the picture).
If you enjoyed this and you could use more daily love she is offering the 30 day package of guided meditations, daily mantras, phone wallpapers, inspiring quotes and more for only $27. What I love is that it's calming and uplifting at the same time. I am always so amazed how it gets my energy up, which then uplifts the rest of the day.
Go to Returntolove.co to learn more or to buy the program!
Take a deep breath.
Today is a blank page.
There is no part of me that is not part of everything else.
Each soul has its path.
Some were meant to step on yours.
Others were meant to lift it up. Some were meant to put yours in such misery, that you had to go really, really deep to find your sanity again.
But these are the ways love forces us to see it when it's not in plain sight.
These are the ways it can wear disguises to see if we're paying attention.
This road your on? This magnificent morning?
This was your soul's path.
Long ago you decided to walk this earth again to learn something, to do something different this time around.
That weird cable guy, or the angry boss, or the puppy in the window: they are all our teachers.
They were all put on our path for the beautiful realization that we all coexist from a single love source, and to recognize that love source in each other.
Seeing each other every day, trees included, is like coming home to a family that's been together for lifetimes.
There is no part of you, Melissa, that is not part of everything else.
There is no part of you, that is also not part of a caterpillar, inching its way across a twig, or a leaf that falls on the ground before you.
We are all experiencing and fulfilling our soul paths together.
Take a moment to give thanks for all of the wonderful gifts in your life. Be sure to include things you're waiting to show up for you. The fastest way to get what you want is to acknowledge that it's already here.
I am thankful for...
I am thankful for...
I am thankful for...
I am thankful for...
I am thankful for...
As we end our beautiful start to this day, let's give ourselves a little hug, and forgive yesterday. It's currently on its way to the distant past, and no longer has power over us. Let's lay down our armor, and the weapons we use to defend ourselves, and instead use love as our great protector, forever keeping us safe, and always at the heart of everyone we meet.
"Universal energy flows through us whether we're an elevated guru or a sea slug."
A big thank you to Monique for allowing me to share her beautiful work here. To learn more or to purchase the series for $27 go to Returntolove.co.